Your Guide to building Your
Intimate Wedding Experience
HOW TO ELOPE ADVENTUROUSLY with SOUL:
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A Note From Me
Hello Friends —
I can’t tell you how excited I am that you’re choosing something so beautifully intentional for your elopement.
You’ve decided to create an experience that reflects who you are and what you value — not what anyone else expects. That’s powerful, and the opportunity to do something so special is why I'm SO glad you're here with me at Soul & Sky.
When you choose to elope, you’re choosing connection over performance.
You’re choosing to slow down, to let the world fall away, and savor the luxury of time to just be, immersed in the amazing experiences you'll choose. You’re honoring your story in a beautifully personal, grounded way.
That’s not just brave — it’s extraordinary.
So take a deep breath. There are no rules here. No templates. Just possibilities.
You can use this guide for ideas and information to get your wheels turning on what feels right for you both.
I’ll be here through every step: dreaming to design... guiding to creating... ensuring your adventure feels uniquely you, from start to finish.
So, sit back and start thinking "What if we...?" And then? Enjoy the process of creating a wedding experience that you’ll love every minute of.
Here’s to the start of something unforgettable.
— Kate
Soul & Sky — Adventurous Weddings & Elopements
HOW IT WORKS
6 Steps to planning your elopement
There’s no single path to planning your elopement — and that’s exactly the beauty of it.
Think of this guide as your compass, not a checklist.
So while these are generally the steps to follow, it’s not always a linear process.
Explore what matters most to you, piece by piece, and I'll be there to help support you as you dream.
P.S. — the below is a TABLE OF CONTENTS
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Who are you inviting - Where are you going - What story you want to live/tell.
The next step is plan out all of your details for your adventure including booking your travel, choosing your vendors, deciding on activities, picking out your wedding day attire, good footwear, layering clothing, and any gear you may need.
Once you have all of the details decided on, it’s time to put your vision all together and create a timeline of experiences for your elopement or intimate wedding. Some factors to help guide:
Sunrise vs Sunset - Getting Ready - First Looks -Legal Needs - Ceremony Ideas - Personalizing Activities - Timeline Sample
When it’s time, you’ll have everything set . All you need to do is:
- Communicate with guests (if you have any)
- Pack & arrive
- Let the adventure unfold
This is the heart of it all. Let go of expectations. Soak in the views. Hold each other close. You’ve created something rare — and that’s worth slowing down for.
Live Your Story - What Comes Next - Thank You/Close
Dream Freely
Start with imagination, not logistics.
Start with imagination, not logistics. The first step is all about brainstorming — what would your elopement days look like if there were no limits?
What would your wedding day look like if there were no boundaries?
Start here. Forget logistics for a moment and let yourselves dream.
Let your mind wander a little—think bucket-list places, wild landscapes, or dream destinations that make your heart race. Things you've always wanted to do or try that the idea alone brings you joy.
This step isn’t about what’s “feasible.” It’s about vision.
No two elopements look alike—because no two couples are the same. Don’t limit yourselves to what you’ve seen on blogs or social. There are no rules. Your experience should feel alive, relaxed, and true to you.
This is imagination time. Picture the most enjoyable trip for the two of you—one that celebrates your relationship in the most honest way. Set aside restrictions for now.
Dream big. Details come later.
What about your wedding experience?
Pro Tip:
Make brainstorming about your best wedding experience a date night
Cuddle on the sofa, cook a great dinner, or walk your favorite trail—wherever you enjoy real time together.
Close your eyes, take each other’s hand, and picture it:
Where are you? What do you see? What do you feel?
Are you on a mountain after a sunrise hike? In a rooftop bar above city lights? Between vineyard rows? In kayaks on a quiet river? Barefoot on a moody beach with a picnic waiting? The open expanse of a safari? The tucked in quiet of a glass topped igloo in the snow?
There are no wrong answers. Avoid shutting ideas down for being “impractical” (for now). Capture what excites you -- drop your short list into the Vision Questionnaire I sent you (found here in your Client Portal).
We’ll shape it into a plan next.
- What have been the best adventures you’ve had together so far? Where were you, and what made those moments unforgettable?
- Describe how your ideal celebration or ceremony would feel — relaxed, free, adventurous, grounded? What’s the emotion you’re longing for?
- Close your eyes and picture your wedding experience — is it just the two of you, or are others there to share it? Do you see loved ones, your dog, or simply wide-open landscape?
- What’s the scenery around you? Mountains, ocean cliffs, a desert trail, a cabin in the woods, a vineyard, glacier, an island shore?
- What about the season, weather, and what you’re wearing? What makes you feel most comfortable and most like yourselves?
- How much time are you dedicating to this experience — a long weekend escape, a week-long journey, or a multi-week adventure abroad?
Questions to Inspire Your Vision
Looking for a few creative sparks to get ideas flowing? Here are some prompts to explore together.
- What are all the celebrations that matter to you? Your vows & adventure only? A later party with loved ones? Engagement photos and/or party pre-elopement? What parts of the wedding journey feel important to your story?
- What are you doing together? Maybe hiking at sunrise, soaking in a hot spring, exploring a new city, sailing, spotting on a safari, or cooking dinner at your lodge.
- What does your ceremony look like? Are there words, rituals, or traditions that hold meaning for you? Something you want to include that tells your story?
- Think back to how you fell in love — are there ways to weave that memory in? A favorite place, song, or shared experience that began it all?
- What about food and drink — what would make it feel celebratory for you both? A chef-prepared dinner, local wine, fancy picnic, or something simple by a fire?
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Write down every idea sparked during this conversation — no matter how small or wild. Later, when you start planning the details, you’ll have a beautiful foundation to build from.
Your Vision =
Your True North
These are biggest decisions that will most affect your elopement experience: who you’re inviting, where/how you’re getting married/adventuring, and what pieces/events your wedding story will contain.
- Take your time with these.
- Be HONEST about what you both want most.
- Use your Vision for the experience to test + guide each part of these decisions.
This part of the process is fun, but, it can feel hard, even overwhelming. Ask ALL the questions, as it will help you make amazing choices aligned with what matters most.
If you ever feel stuck, unsure, or just want to talk it out, reach out. I'm here for you.
If you do decide to invite loved ones along — whether it’s just for a shared meal, the getting-ready moments, the ceremony itself, or the full experience — make sure they’re aligned with your vision and will honor what role they are given (if any.)
They should understand that this isn’t a big traditional wedding, but a meaningful celebration that reflects who you are.
Not fluff. Not excess. Not tradition for tradition’s sake, and, that your vision guides outcomes.
If your people support that shared intention, then let’s make it happen.
Decide on "Who"
ARE YOU INVITING ANY FRIENDS OR FAMILY?
- Out of the people you’re considering inviting, is everyone on that list genuinely excited about the experience and fully aligned with what you’re envisioning?
- Is there someone who would find deep meaning in hearing your vows, or do you prefer to share them privately, just the two of you?
- Could inviting a few people create a “snowball effect,” or do you have a clear short list that feels simple and intentional?
- Is there anyone who might unintentionally take over, redirect focus, or bring stress into an otherwise relaxed celebration?
- How accessible are the destination/experiences you have in mind — can everyone you’d want there comfortably reach it? What accommodations will be needed to allow equal participation?
- Consider travel and lodging, too. Where will your guests be coming from, and are there thoughtful, comfortable places for them to stay nearby? Will they want to travel there (desire, finances, etc), or, will it be a stress or decision point for them?
Things to consider: considering eloping with family or friends
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HAVE ONE INTIMATE CEREMONY
Planning a single ceremony that includes your loved ones can be a beautiful way to have them by your side as you exchange vows.
The only trade-off might be choosing a location and set of experiences that are more accessible or comfortable for everyone.
SPLIT THE EXPERIENCE
If you want to include family and friends without compromising your dream ceremony spot/experience, consider splitting it up.
You might share private vows first — just the two of you in your chosen location — and then gather with family later for a celebration or second ceremony.
Day One can center around connection and family, while Day Two (and/or beyond) is all about adventure, exploring, and creating experiences just the two of you.
A multi-day timeline gives space for both shared moments and personal adventure.
Celebrate and photograph with family the first day, then dedicate the next to your own immersive experience. Whether it's private vows wrapped in adventure, a unique excursion, or even simply unwinding in a stunning landscape, it’s the best of both worlds.
INCLUDE THEM IN OTHER MEANINGFUL MOMENTS
Your family and friends can be physically present and involved in your wedding day, even if you don’t necessarily want to have a ceremony with them.
You can invite them to help you get ready or see your first look, before sending you off to have an entirely private ceremony by yourselves.
Or you can invite them to just take some formal portraits with you afterward and have a celebratory dinner in the evening.
How to involve friends & family on your elopement day
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- Host an engagement party or send an announcement to share your plans.
- Invite them to help choose attire, heirlooms, or sentimental details that will travel with you.
- Schedule a moment before your trip for signing your marriage license together or sharing a toast.
- Ask loved ones to write letters for you to read during your ceremony or adventure.
- You two write a "letter to loved ones" or record a quick video message in adventure. This can be a nice touch to read/share at a post elopement event.
How to Involve Friends & Family from Afar
And remember, I can help you weave these moments into your multi-day timeline and story coverage so nothing meaningful gets missed.
- Plan a quick text, FaceTime or video call during your trip, or send a few behind-the-scenes photos and short videos.
- Open cards or gifts from them while you’re away — a beautiful bridge between home and adventure.
- Bring back small keepsakes or local treasures as part of your story to share later.
- Plan a relaxed post-elopement gathering or dinner after you return to celebrate and relive the experience. (Tip: you can include a “save the date” for this event in your announcement.)
- Share your full photo gallery when it’s ready (or, make it special with a reveal party!)
- Gift albums or prints so they can experience the story too.
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Whether you’re eloping across the world or spending a few days close to home, communicating your plans with loved ones can help keep things smooth and supportive. This part isn’t about asking for permission — it’s about inviting understanding and connection.
Keep Them Involved
Inviting friends and family to participate in parts of your planning helps them feel connected and valued. Sharing details about your multi-day celebration — the time, thought, and care you’ve put into it — reassures them they’re not being left out, but are part of your story.
Keeping them informed makes it easy for them to celebrate with you, even from afar or post-elopement, and to understand why this experience fits you perfectly.
Share Your Photos
When your story is ready, let them experience it through your images. Plan a photo reveal night, mail a few prints, or gift an album. It’s a beautiful way to bring them into the full arc of your celebration — from preparation to the final day of adventure.
Remember, there’s no one right way to share your decision. Do it in a way that feels natural, kind, and aligned with how you want this experience to unfold.
I’m here to help with ideas and communication approaches so every part of your story feels supported.
If you know some family or friends might be surprised, start planting the idea ahead of time. Stragetically use friends/family members who are supportive to help you drop hints with those who may need longer for the idea to sink in. Talk about how meaningful a more personal, multi-day celebration feels to you both. The earlier they hear it, the easier it is for them to see your vision.
Drop Hints Early
Share Face-to-Face (or on Video)
When possible, tell them in person or through a video chat. It’s the best way to share your excitement and let them see your joy. If distance makes that tough, a thoughtful call or message works just as well.
How to Tell Friends & Family About Your Plans
If anyone asks why you’ve chosen an intimate or multi-day celebration, here are a few ways to share what inspired your decision in a grounded, heartfelt way.
These simple explanations help others see the meaning behind your choice — without needing to over-explain. People respond best when they understand the heart behind it.
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- We wanted to create something deeply meaningful and unique to us — time and space to truly connect.
- We wanted to spend quality time together, focusing on each other instead of guests or timelines.
- We wanted to exchange vows somewhere beautiful and private — a setting that wouldn’t suit a large group.
- We wanted the process of getting married to feel natural, simple, and stress-free.
- We didn’t want to wait or plan around a big traditional wedding — we’re ready to celebrate this season of life now.
- We chose to invest in travel, a home, or a shared experience rather than a one-day event.
- We want to create an intimate experience where our families can connect, too, while we celebrate, without the pressure of a huge event to distract.
Keep your response honest and relaxed — your reasons are enough. Every couple’s story is unique, and this one is yours.
Remember This Wedding Experience is FOR YOU.
BUT... don’t forget that your wedding day and wedding experience are a celebration of your love with your partner (not anybody else.) You deserve to have the ceremony & experience that feels right and authentic to you.
Your "Why" — Sharing What Matters Most
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Your location should feel right for you—it should be somewhere you feel overwhelmingly happy, somewhere you feel absolutely alive, somewhere you know you and your partner can focus on each other and truly be in the moment.
Decide on "Where"
WHERE DO YOU WANT TO SAY YOUR VOWS?
What type of scenery do you and your partner feel connected to? What views fill you with a sense of happiness, inspiration, and peace? Where would feel the most “you” to say your vows? Remember back to your brainstorming stage of the process and what you two determined about your vision for your day. What scenery would fulfill that experience that you’re dreaming of?
SCENERY & VIEWS
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05 - EXPERIENCE & ACTIVITIES
04 - Meaning
03 - ACCESSIBILITY
02 - SEASONS & WEATHER
01 - SCENERY & VIEWS
FACTORS TO CONSIDER WHEN PICKING YOUR LOCATION
Some types of scenery and landscapes really shine at certain times of year—so consider the season you’ve chosen to elope, and what types of scenery are best at that time of year. If you’re getting married in the spring, waterfalls tend to be flowing their best, there’s usually a lot of snow at high altitudes, and the desert can be quite pleasant. If you’re eloping in the middle of summer, you could go somewhere with blooming wildflowers and high elevations are more accessible. If you’re eloping in the fall, consider where the best fall colors may be.
And considering Northern/Southern Hemisphere locations adds more flexibility in aligning seasons to your preferred timing.
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04 - Meaning
03 - ACCESSIBILITY
How accessible your location is will greatly affect your elopement experience.
What types of transportation are you and any potential guests willing to take to get to your spot? A long car ride? A bumpy 4x4 road? A bush plane, float plane, helicopter, gondola, or ferry? Are you (and any potential guests) excited about hiking to a location?
Make sure you deeply consider what experience would be the most fun, relaxing, and totally “you.” How accessible you want your destination to be can help you narrow down your location options. Also keep in mind any other guests that might be attending and their capacity to travel or hike.
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Be intentional about the place you decide on and the significance it has to you now or could have to you in the future. Maybe it is a favorite place to travel to with your partner, a place you’ve always wanted to go, or a place that you could travel back to every year to celebrate your anniversary.
Meaning
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05 - EXPERIENCE & ACTIVITIES
04 - Meaning
03 - ACCESSIBILITY
02 - SEASONS & WEATHER
01 - SCENERY & VIEWS
Beyond saying your vows and taking portraits, what else do you want to do on your elopement days (1.5 days or longer)? Whether you want to relax in a hammock between the trees, take a helicopter or float plane ride, go sailing, kayaking, paddleboarding, skiing, safari spotting, paragliding, wine tasting, or stargazing—some locations will lend themselves better to certain activities.
When you are planning these activities as a part of your day and your overall trip, keep in mind realistically how long they will take and how long it might take to get from one to the next (with a buffer just in case)! If you have your heart set on a particular activity—this could help you narrow down where you choose to elope.
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In a perfect world—your elopement location would ideally have world-class postcard scenery, super easy accessibility, and total seclusion—but most of the time you usually have to prioritize two out of those three.
Some locations that are easier to access usually have less privacy because of it.
The general rule of thumb (although not a set rule) is that the further you are willing to travel, or, the more challenging the travel to get there, the more secluded your spot will probably be.
...So ask yourself how many people you would be comfortable having around or how much privacy you would be willing to give up for an Instagram-trending view.
You can also find great seclusion at “hidden gem” locations that are just as gorgeous as the Instagram trendy spots—just less well known.
Eloping at sunrise, or, in "shoulder season" vs peak season are both ways to get more privacy at a typically busy destination.
SECLUSION
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If you choose to invite guests, be intentional about who joins, considering travel logistics, accessibility, and how much of the overall experience they’ll share. Most Soul & Sky experiences are designed for 2-20 guests — an ideal range for intimacy, connection, and easy movement between events. In some locations, we can expand to 30 total, without overwhelming the soul of your adventure.
Some off-the-beaten-path locations may limit group size, but there are incredible, immersive destinations that can comfortably welcome a few loved ones.
Set realistic expectations with guests about travel time, physical effort, and how each part of the experience — ceremony, adventure, celebration dinners, and post-elopement moments — fits together.
Expense can also be a consideration, especially for remote and or type of lodging/experiences chosen. So, plan ahead and lead with transparency on who will hold what costs related to travel/participating/etc.
When handled thoughtfully, guests can feel included in a way that enhances your story rather than changes it.
(PS--not sure including guests feels right? Click here to see more ideas on how to celebrate with your treasured few)
GUESTS
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Deciding how many days to dedicate to your elopement experience helps create a flow events in a way that tells your story.
As someone who designs modern elopement experiences, I build adventures that unfold across multiple parts — blending lifestyle exploration, ceremony, and celebration into a cohesive narrative.
From arrival, early exploration, and welcome dinners to adventure-filled days, vow exchanges, and relaxed post-elopement experiences, every element becomes part of the full visual story.
Do you want a single sweeping adventure, or a series of intentional experiences that unfold over multiple days — from arrival to exploration, ceremony to celebration, and onward into your honeymoon travels? This is where your story begins to take shape.
Decide The Story you want to live
What does the wedding "journey" look like for you?
Things to consider when deciding on events & coverage
Engagement Session
Building a multi-location experience is a beautiful way to create variety — in scenery, pace, and story.
Whether it’s crossing borders for an international elopement, exploring multiple regions within one destination, or planning a destination engagement session as we begin your journey, multi-location storytelling lets you embrace more of what you love.
For couples who thrive on exploration, slow travel, and immersion, this kind of experience brings your elopement to life across landscapes and cultures. You don’t have to fit everything into one day — if there are multiple places that inspire you, spread the celebration out and take your time.
Don’t Rule Out a Multi-Location Experience
Whether you host a relaxed backyard dinner, rent out a favorite restaurant, or plan something elegant months later, these gatherings bring everyone back into the fold without pulling focus from your intimate experience.
I recommend scheduling your reception 3–6 months after your elopement to give yourself space to fully enjoy your travels first. Or, celebrating at 1 year anniversary can also be a fun milestone with your treasured few.
Post-Elopement Reception
At Soul & Sky, most couples choose 1.5 days or more for their elopement — enough time to slow down, explore deeply, and savor every part of their story.
A multi-day experience gives you space to not rush and let things unfold at a natural pace. It’s the luxury of time — to balance adventure with relaxation, to move as fast or as slow as you'd like.
You might begin your journey with a lifestyle day in a vibrant city — taking time to explore, dine, and soak in the energy before heading off-grid. The next day might bring your ceremony, an alpine hike, or a private dinner under the stars. Then, flow right into another adventure day to celebrate, onward into honeymoon travels or a post-elopement adventure, allowing the story to continue seamlessly.
It’s never a photo shoot or stiff poses — I’m a friend with a camera, quietly capturing what your adventure looked and felt like as it happened.
This approach is what defines Soul & Sky: immersive, intentional storytelling through beautiful images created naturally in movement, exploration and in connection.
And truly, no one has ever said they wish they’d planned fewer days. ;-)
So as you plan, think about the FULL story you want to see in your wedding album in 15 years. Then, let's go create that.
Muti-Day Elopement — The Soul & Sky Signature Experience
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Design Your Details
Start with imagination, not logistics.
Customizing your experience and executing the Vision
Plan Out the Details — With Concierge Support
Once you’ve chosen your destination, guest plan, and trip length, the next step is bringing your elopement adventures to life. But you’re not doing it alone — this is where my Soul & Sky concierge support lends a hand.
My role is to research, guide, and support you through every step so you can focus on the fun parts of decision-making while I handle the legwork.
Throughout the process, I’ll help you align logistics, timing, and experiences into a natural, easy multi-day flow.
For couples who want a little extra support, I offer white-glove concierge services to help plan and coordinate travel or adventure logistics for the time surrounding your elopement. A customized support so you can have your entire experience feel seamless from start to finish.
And if you ever want to bounce ideas or talk through details, I’m here to help in any way I can.
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Identify & Book Travel & Lodging
I'll be helping guide you through the core adventure & logistics of the elopement experience and the main timeline that results.
However, the surrounding details for arrival/departure travel and any pre/post adventure travel & experiences will be your responsibility to design and plan. So, the tips below will guide.
Ready to get started?
After years of exploring and photographing across continents, I’ve gathered a few must-know strategies for booking smart, less-stress travel.
Travel Booking Tips
If you're thinking you may want your full journey supported, my white-glove travel concierge service can assist with logistics beyond your elopement days — from flights & transportation, pre-elopement stays/ arrival activities, to transitions into your honeymoon travels (lodging & excursions), and, return home travel.
It’s a seamless way to extend your experience and shorten your to-do list so that you can keep the joy in your wedding planning experience.
5. White-Glove Travel Concierge Option
Autoslash routinely gives very nice savings over posted rates on Priceline, and, does so with mainline "big box" rental companies. Look for no fee cancellation/change offers and you can feel good about grabbing deals as they pop up.
It is possible to drive internationally in most places, it's often moreso a comfort level vs a rules and restrictions. Google Maps is quite reliable in the 20+ countries I've been to if you have cell service.
If you plan to drive internationally, two things:
- Confirm if an international drivers license will be required, and if so, places like AAA in the US or CAA in Canada can often provide.
- Rental company Liability Coverage minimums can be sneaky. Some countries mandate them, but, never assume your credit card car rental "insurance" will suffice (it often doesn't). Read rental agreement fine print carefully.
3. Arranging Car rentals
If you haven’t explored credit card rewards for travel yet, The Points Guy and Travel Freely are both great places to start.
However, straight fares may make more sense than using points, especially for complex or multi-connecting journeys.
You can use the following to set flight alerts for fare drops from your local airport, to monitor fares for particular routes you are interested in, or to use their explore or map functions to find the best flight deals.
- thriftytraveler.com (subscribing to their Premium offering yields top results)
- google.com/flights
- scottscheapflights.com
2. Use Rewards & Track Fares
If you can, schedule your arrival a few days before your first major activity. This gives you time to adjust to time zones, settle in, and handle any local details (permits, wedding license, florals, attire pickup, etc) without pressure.
And, those days are a critical buffer, just in case of travel delays. You'll hear me say time-and-time-again "Luck favors the prepared."
If your destination sits at a higher altitude, plan for at least 48–72 hours to acclimate before hiking or other physical adventures — it makes all the difference.
1. Arrive Early
While I'll be guiding selections of in-adventure lodging, planning ahead (and booking early!) for any other stays needed is key.
Need some accommodation inspiration? Here are a few places I like to browse as I plan:
a) Airbnb
b) VRBO
c) Glamping Hub
d) Boutique Homes
e) Under Canvas
f) InvitedHome
g) Book a Treehouse
h) Wander
i) Design Hotels
j) CasitaMX (Mexico only)
4. Booking Lodging
Have questions? Need Guidance? I'm here for you.
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This is where your elopement starts to take on the fingerprints of what matters most to you.
We’ll explore options for elements like florals, private chefs, design and decor touches, music, etc as details that can elevate your celebration.
Whether you want to keep things simple or add more enhanced wedding-style design elements with an expert's touch, I’ll help you find the right partners to make magic.
Choose Your Vendors & Details
Once your travel and location plans are set, it’s time to bring the creative details to life.
We’ll talk about what’s legally required for your ceremony, and creative ways to make that moment meaningful — from self-solemnization to symbolic or multi-day ceremonies.
And, as your experience curator, I’ll connect you with trusted local experts, passionate about the place you’ve chosen, to create a wildly unique adventure to fit your vision.
Vendor ideas to customize your elopement experience
As your vision starts to come to life, here are some Vendor & Artisan categories to inspire you.
While I'll typically suggest experiences, vendors, etc in the Idea Seeds, your thoughts and wishes/must-haves are always encouraged!
Private Chef or Caterer
Hair & Makeup Artist
Florals / Floral Design Artist
Excursion or Activity Guide
Officiant or Celebrant
Videographer
Musician or Sound Artist
Planner or On-Site Coordinator
Custom Details, jewerly & Keepsakes
Designer + Decor Rentals
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Every immersive experience you choose creates an elopement you'll be excited to dive into. And, I'll always encourage a mix of quiet moments to bold adventures for a beautiful balance.
SO... Start with curiosity. Think back to your vision and notice what makes you both say, “Yes — that’s us.”
Those sparks fuel our planning.
Choose Your Activities
Welcome to the freedom to play and explore!
Ask yourselves:
What experiences make us feel alive and connected?
What do we love doing together, at home or on our best trips?
What have we said that "one day, we'll do...," but, still haven't?
Is there something new we want to try together?
ACTIVITY IDEAS
...To inspire your dreaming
If your dream location sits off a rugged trail, consider renting a jeep or hiring a local driver so you can access it comfortably (and just enjoy the ride).
You can also reach these spots with ATV or UTV rentals for a bit more adventure.
From a 2-mile hike to a 2-day trek, few things feel more alive than a hiking adventure to your ceremony spot.
Whether you love a quiet walk through the woods, trek over a glacier's surface, or tackling a challenging trail together, there are countless paths to explore. I’d be thrilled to help you find -and then explore- the one that fits your vision.
It’s a powerful way to see multiple landscapes without the time or distance of a long drive, and often, access by air is the cheat code to get to places inaccessible any other way.
A hot air balloon ride can be another incredible, romantic way to take in the world from above.
• Paragliding
• Rappelling
• Hiking a Via Ferrata
• Ice/Rock Climbing or Bouldering
• SkyDiving
• Cold Plunge
• Base Jumping or Bungee Jumping
• Ziplining
• Slacklining or Highlining
• Canyoneering or Caving
• Sandboarding or Sandsledding
• Mountain biking
• Dancing
• Horseback riding
• Sightseeing
• Laying or walking on a beach
• Going on a safari
• Taking a motorcycle, jeep or convertible ride
• Riding bikes
• Horseback riding
• Sauna, pool, or soaking in a hot tub
• Relaxing in a hammock together
• Doing yoga together
• Pottery, glassblowing, drawing or painting
• Visit a museum, coffee shop, or stroll around town
• Hanging out in a treehouse
• Sound bath
• Having a picnic or private cooking class/chef
• Wine Tasting
• Drink tea or coffee
• Yacht, pontoon, or sail
Feel alive on the water? There are so many water activities you can do across your elopement experience:
• Canoes
• Kayaks
• Paddleboards
• White water rafting
• Fishing
• Soaking in hot springs
• Cliff jumping
• Beach laying & swimming
• Packrafting
• Scuba diving or snorkeling
• Jetskiing
• Cold plunge
• Underwater portraits
• Yacht, pontoon, sail, or other boat styles
• Snowmobiling
• Snowshoeing
• Skiing (downhill or cross-country)
• Snowboarding
• Sledding
• Snowball fight
• Ice Skating
• Aurora spotting
• Dogsledding
• Glacier Trekking
• Ice climbing
• Glacier Glamping
Just because the sun sets doesn’t mean the fun is over. There is absolute magic to staying up late/rising early:
• Stargazing
• Aurora spotting
• Cozying up next to a campfire
• Making s’mores & cooking a campfire dinner
• First dance by firelight
• Night hiking/walkabout
• Cuddle & hangout back at your lodging
Love camping? Set up a tent camping experience on your own, for basecamp-style day trip exploration. Or, you could take a few days to backpack on a trail you’ve always wanted to explore.
Looking for a little less effort on your wedding adventure? Book a guided experience where your gear and supplies are carried or airdropped in for you and camp is all set up (glampacking!)
But, being outside doesn't necessitate roughing it!
Rent a vanlife outfitted vehicle and head to the backcountry instead of tent camping. Book a glamping ("glamorous camping") experience. Or, for the ultimate glamping experience, choose a mobile safari camp, for an experience straight from the golden age of exploration.
Looking for ways to involve your friends, family, kiddos or fur babies in some activities in your experience? Here are a few ideas beyond ones already listed:
• Go on a walk with your dog
• Play yard games
• Play card or board games
• Have a dance party
• Piñatas, Karaoke & other party games
• Photo or video booth
• Picnic or grill out
• Read books
Planning out your activities: Some of these experiences come together easily, while others need a little extra coordination or advance booking.
Let me know all the things that interest you. As they settle into your final planning, I’ll help you identify which require guides, permits, or reservations and build them smoothly into your multi-day timeline.
It can be tempting to try to "do it all".
So, make sure to give yourself enough time to truly enjoy each moment — the goal is to feel unhurried, present, and fully immersed in your experience.
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From ready-to-wear online gowns and modern suit collections to custom designer pieces or casual styles perfect for adventure days, there’s no single right choice.
Choose Your Attire
What you wear should feel like an extension of your story —
We live in the space where style intertwines with function so you can celebrate and explore beautifully, but still move with ease.
I'm here with insights to help you fall in love with attire fitting both the spirit of the experience -and- the logistics of your adventure.
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- Your dress (or other garments) don't have to be white—it can be any color you want. Black, blue, green, red, florals, multi-colored—whatever you want, go for it.
- If you’re having an outdoor elopement, it’s likely there will be a natural breeze. See how the dress flows and reacts to movement. Pick up the bottom fabric and mimic wind, twirl, and spin to see how flowy it is. A simple skirt can look epic if it’s moved the right way, so sometimes the best “windblown” looks come from a dress that might seem a little boring on the hanger.
- If you plan to do a longer hiking elopement, it’s a great idea to pack your dress in a backpack and then change when you get to your ceremony spot—consider avoiding heavier materials like corsets, boning, tulle, and super puffy skirts. Go for something lightweight.
- Even if you’re not hiking, you’ll likely want to be able to move around freely. Are you able to take a big upward step in the dress? Will you be able to climb up on a rock, step across to a boat off a dock? Raise both arms up, dance, skip, run, swish it. Make sure it has the movement you love.
Remembering there are no rules, here are a few things to help your search:
- Is the dress lightweight enough for all-day wear? Leave it on for an extended period of time and make sure it remains comfortable.
- Can you sit down in a chair comfortably in the dress? Can you sit comfortably on the ground?
- Do some jumping jacks and dance around. How does it feel? Does the dress bounce back into place or does it need a lot of adjusting after movement?
- Are you interested in any accessories? Veils, capes, and shoulder shawls can add extra movement and tons of drama to your photos.
- Plan layering options that will go with the dress. If your elopement might have colder temperatures, size appropriately to have room to wear thermal or fleece lined leggings (or heavier) underneath. Over top, you can find cozy shawls, shrugs, or jackets that coordinate with your dress and that you’d be excited about being photographed in.
- Not looking for a dress? Try skirts, separates, or sweaters/tops. Maybe even a jumpsuit. They come in all styles, so there's sure to be one that sparks your interest.
tips for Choosing Your Look — Dresses, skirts, etc
- Your suit doesn’t have to be black, and the top doesn’t have to match the bottom. Mixing and matching colors and materials for jackets and pants is a great way to add personality and reflect your own style. Think beyond the traditional.
- Consider fun patterns and textures in your look. Corduroy pants, a leather jacket, a shirt with penguins, or a knitted cardigan — it’s all fair game. Not everything needs to be formal or classic linen; choose what feels like you and fits the spirit of your adventures.
- Don’t forget accessories. Suspenders, vests, bolo ties, bow ties, neckerchiefs, scarves, hats, belts, pocket watches, cufflinks, or pocket squares can all add personality and detail to your outfit. Each piece tells a little more of your story.
- Make sure your outfit moves with you. Take a few big strides, squat, sit, stretch, or jump — it should feel easy to move in and comfortable for the experiences you’ll have throughout your multi-day celebration.
Remembering there are no rules, here are a few things to help your search:
- If you’ll be celebrating in a cool or cold destination, size for room for layering under your suit — a thermal undershirt and thermal pants (aka long underwear) are critical
- At the end of the day, wear what makes you feel good, confident, and celebrated. Authenticity always looks the best.
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tips for Choosing Your Look — Suits, Tuxes, etc
TIMING: Keep in mind that some dress shops can take up to six+ months to receive a gown. Custom suits can be about 3-6 months. Then, you’ll want to leave additional time for any necessary alterations. (More on that below)
Bespoke dresses, plan for 12+ months to be safe.
If you have any questions regarding design or choosing garments based on the "adventure factors" above, call or text me any time.
I'm here to help so you can navigate the garment experience with excitement.
AND... Never feel rushed or pressured into making a decision. It’s okay to leave a shop without finding the perfect garment. You will find the one.
Garment shopping, Selection & tailoring
Formalwear + dirt? (Insert look of horror: "Why? You'll ruin the dress." ) (lol).
Dirty Dresses & Garment Tailoring
PRO TIP:
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This way, post adventure(s), you can change into a clean outfit as you prefer.
Re: tailoring. Given their concerns, they will at times try to steer you in ways that may not be needed.
- Bustling & raised hemlines — not always needed. Gowns with trains look gorgeous moving along the ground in natural spaces (trails, glacier ice, tall grass, etc).
- Hemlines raised too high — especially for trouser/pants. Typical dress shoes will have a sole with less height than hiking boots/rugged shoes. So fitting without your final outdoor shoes could result in a hem that is too high on the pant for the final sole height. Always wear your adventure shoes at all fittings (dress fittings too!).
- Tailoring too slim — If you’re eloping somewhere cool or cold (or tend to feel chilly), make sure your garments are sized to allow for warm under layers underneath. Bring those layers to your fittings and wear them so the tailor can account for the extra room needed while keeping the fit perfectly sharp. This applies to dresses, trousers, shirts, vests, jackets, and any other tailored formal pieces.
- Think about the environment. Select footwear that’s appropriate for the terrain and lets you move freely. Function beats form here — uncomfortable shoes can distract from your experience, while good ones keep you grounded and ready for anything.
- For outdoor locations, solid shoes or boots with real tread make a huge difference on rocks, trails, and uneven ground. Unless you’ll be on smooth pavement all day, opt for supportive shoes with grip. Avoid heels or slick dress shoes — stability and comfort open up more freedom to explore.
- If your location is cold, size up to leave room for thicker socks or toe warmers, and invest in quality wool socks for warmth and comfort.
Remembering there are no rules, here are a few things to help your search:
- In snowy or icy places, traction spikes can prevent slips and help you move with confidence. But, these need a stiffer soled shoe to work best and be comfortable, so pair with a hiking boot, snow boot, or similar.
- For warm or tropical destinations, supportive sandals or barefoot shoe options can work beautifully, especially for beach ceremonies on hot sand.
- If hiking is part of your day, bring a pair of reliable hiking boots or shoes and break them in beforehand to avoid blisters. You can always swap footwear for your ceremony or photos — just make sure both options fit the terrain and your comfort.
- If headed to a location with wet or damp weather/ground conditions, a hiking/rugged shoe or boot with some water resistance or waterproofing can be invaluable
- Have a signature flair like cowboy boots, Chuck Taylors, or want a more style-orientated option? We can carry these special options with us, and change into them for the ceremony and portraits that follow (as conditions allow). We'll always opt for safety first, but, fashion can indeed run a close second.
Tips for Picking the Best Footwear
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Base layers.
Fleece-lined or wool leggings, often available in skin tone colors. Slimmer fitting tech layers for under slacks/pants are key.
Bring more than one set of base layers, too, for multiple event days, and, to adjust as conditions change
Mid layers.
Bring something warm like a sweater, shawl, fleece, or down jacket you can wear alone, or under a warmer coat as needed. Consider bringing an option to keep you warm that you won’t mind being photographed in.
Outer layer.
This is your primary defense
against the elements! A heavier down or synthetic coat for warmth. A rain shell will protect you from rain, snow, and wind.
Accessories.
Warmth is happiness. Gloves, mittens, a beanie, ear warmers, a scarf, a buff, etc. And, Hand & body warmers! Great to have in "Core", "hand", "foot" sizes
Blankets.
This is a great option for warming
up between exploring and makes for great, cuddly photos, too. A wool blanket is water (& dirt!) repellent, warm, and, a classically beautiful option.
Words of Warmth: Plan for worst case
In high elevations in mountainous areas it can snow as late as June and as early as September, and snow can last year-round in some spots. The weather in Alaska/glaciers/etc changes quickly, too, year round.
And even at lower elevations, if it’s near water, just early morning, cloudy, foggy, or a bit windier than expected on your day, having an extra layer to put on, can make all the difference in the world to how much fun you’re having.
Knowing how to layer and which layers to choose is going to be very important to ensure your elopement experience is comfortable and full of excitement.
I'm here to help you plan what you need for gear, layers, etc as you need. So, we always plan for cold, and are pleased if it's warmer. Reach out when you're ready to talk shop ;-)
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Some adventures call for a bit more gear, so you might need some specialty gear to make your elopement experience even more immersive.
Depending on what's needed, you may not need to own or buy, as an excursion vendor may have the needed items to borrow or rent.
Core items like a good daypack, headlamps, water carry solutions, and things like soft-sided backcountry ready luggage are travel staples, however, so good to have.
I can help guide you on all of these as your adventure design finalizes.
Adventure Gear
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Craft your timeline
Start with imagination, not logistics.
Creating the flow of your elopement story
This is where your Vision starts to feel real
Once you’ve chosen your destination, lodging, activities, attire, and travel details—it’s time to bring it all together and design the flow of your experience. This is where everything starts to feel real as your vision becomes a cohesive plan.
At Soul & Sky, most experiences begin with at least 1.5 days of coverage—typically around 8+ hours on day one and 4+ hours on day two is the foundation.
This format gives us time to document not just your ceremony, but the entire flow of your story: sunrise coffee, experiences in wild landscapes, a private dinner, or your first morning and another adventure together as newlyweds.
It’s about telling the whole story, not just the highlight reel.
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So how much coverage is right?
There's no one right answer.
I’ve never photographed an elopement that felt “too long,” but many times I’ve wished for more hours (or even days!) to tell the complete story.
Full coverage doesn’t mean an all-day photoshoot—its room to breathe, to explore, and to be fully present while I quietly document your experience unfolding.
So as you plan, think about the full story you want to see in your wedding album in 5, 10, 15 years. Then, let’s go create that. ❤️
Sunrise vs. Sunset
One big decision when it comes to creating a timeline for your elopement is what time of day you want to have your ceremony and portraits.
Sunrise and sunset are favorite times among photographers to take pictures because of the golden lighting and vibrant colors that come from the sun being low in the sky.
In sunny climates, midday light can create harsh under-eye shadows, which is why I generally recommend doing indoor photos, getting-ready photos, traveling or hiking, activities, or simply relaxing during that time as it makes sense.
THe magic of Light
BENEFITS OF Vows AT sunrise
- Can be more secluded. If you are concerned about how much privacy you are going to have while saying your vows to your partner, then a sunrise elopement or intimate wedding might be a good idea—especially if you choose a heavily trafficked or well-known area.
- Potentially better weather. This is entirely region-dependent, but some areas regularly forecast rain more commonly in the afternoon, which means that a sunrise elopement increases your chances of clear skies. If you’re eloping in a hot climate or planning a hike, going for sunrise can also mean cooler temperatures and less sweating.
- “Alpenglow” on East-Facing Locations. If you’re eloping in a mountainous region on a clear day and the main dramatic view faces east, sunrise is ideal because it means the sunlight will hit that view first—causing the mountains to glow with gorgeous pinks, oranges, and yellow tones.
- It’s a great way to start your day. Starting early and having your elopement or intimate wedding ceremony right at sunrise is an incredible way to begin your wedding day. It also gives you plenty of time to relax for the rest of your day and enjoy any other activities you and your partner want to do.
These are all general rules of thumb. Each location can be different:
BENEFITS OF Vows AT sunset
- Can be secluded. In the evening, most people—whether tourists or locals—tend to return home or to their lodging for dinner, which means that many locations become less busy at sunset. Similar to sunrise, this can give you privacy as you say your vows toward sunset. However, keep in mind that some spots are especially popular for their sunsets, so this isn’t true everywhere.
- You can sleep in. Choosing a sunset ceremony gives you more flexibility with your morning. You can wake up at a comfortable time, get ready in daylight, and enjoy a slow start. If you know you’re not a morning person, a sunrise elopement might leave you groggy or tired—so a sunset elopement can be the perfect fit.
- Great light for west-facing views. If you’re planning to say your vows with a west-facing view behind you, eloping at sunset means the sun’s final rays will illuminate the scene beautifully. On clear days, mountains to the west may even glow with warm alpenglow light as the sun sets.
- You’ll be all warmed up Many couples find it takes a little time to get comfortable being photographed. By sunset, we’ve likely spent hours together, so you’ll already feel relaxed and natural in front of the camera—just in time for your vows, often the most intimate part of the day.
These are all general rules of thumb. Each location can be different:
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It’s when anticipation and emotion start to build, when all the preparation begins to take shape, and when the energy of the day first comes alive. Including this time in your coverage helps tell the full story of your experience — from quiet moments of reflection to the final touch before stepping into your ceremony experience.
I typically aim to have your day started unrushed — wake up slowly, give yourselves time to breathe, and have fun, and just take in all the emotions before the celebration.
During this time, I’ll photograph the details that help complete your story: your attire, vow books, rings, florals, heirlooms, invitations, or gifts. Setting these items aside the day before keeps the morning calm and lets me capture them beautifully.
Getting Ready
Why Getting Ready & Details Photos Matter
Another reason I love getting ready coverage in your timeline? It’s relaxed, unscripted, and allows you to ease into the flow of the ceremony day before the adventure truly begins.
Beginning the adventure slowly
PRO TIP:
If think you may feel a bit awkward in front of the camera (or simply want more of the story captured,) consider adding a bit of lifestyle coverage during your arrival or pre-elopement day, if we didn't meet up for an engagement shoot. Even just an hour with me the day before will make a real, tangible difference in your ease.
It can be as easy as documenting:
- A casual walkabout through a cute area in your arrival city/destination
- Doing a hike or light excursion pre-elopement
- Making a shared meal or a hangout at your lodging,
- A low key coffeehouse hangout
- You two writing out your vows into vow books in your lodging while I photograph your details.
These are all simple -but incredibly powerful- ways to help you get comfortable in front of the lens while creating authentic, story-driven images you'll adore.
Reach out, we can talk about how this could fit beautifully into your unique elopement activities plan.
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If this is your preference, let me know!
That way I can mindfully consider organizing lodging that has separate but nearby spaces, as this makes it easier for me to move between you both and document your individual stories. It’s a sweet window into your partner’s anticipation that you wouldn’t otherwise see.
Getting Ready - Together? Separate?
No Rules. The decision is a personal one.
These small gestures often lead to some of the most genuine, intimate images of the day. You can even blend the two approaches: start with a relaxed morning together in your PJs, sharing breakfast or coffee, then part ways briefly to get dressed for the ceremony.
Whether separately or side by side, these moments are a fun way to mark the true beginning of your wedding ceremony story.
While we never expect lodging rooms/spaces to be pristine, a few points of attention in the run up to getting ready timing will help keep you both feeling relaxed, and, images of this part of the story looking lovely.
Lighting & Atmosphere
Whenever possible, set up near a window for the best light. Natural light is flattering for both your portraits and your hair and makeup artist’s work. Create a calm, sensory space — soft music, candles, or incense can help you ease into the morning.
What to Wear Before Your Attire
Before getting into your ceremony look, choose something that feels comfortable but intentional — a robe, linen set, cozy sweater, or pajamas that photograph well. It keeps your portraits polished without losing that relaxed, genuine feel.
Keeping your space calm and uncluttered makes all the difference. Try to tidy up the day before — fold away any loose clothing, tuck suitcases out of sight, and clear surfaces where possible. A clean, intentional space lets the emotions and moments take center stage and creates a peaceful environment for you to get ready in.
Managing spaces
Meaningful Moments to Incorporate
Some of the most heartfelt getting ready photos come from small, intentional gestures. Think about writing your vows into your books, exchanging love notes or gifts, reading letters from loved ones, or having framed photos nearby of family members who’ve passed. These personal touches tell your story in a beautiful, authentic way.
Tips for the Best Getting Ready & Detail Photos
Special Details to Include
Gather your details ahead of time so I can photograph them beautifully: your attire, vow books, rings, jewelry, florals, heirlooms, invitations, or travel keepsakes. Add personal pieces like a favorite perfume, a ring box, or extra floral stems. These small things enrich the visual story of your day.
How much time to plan
For most couples, about two hours is ideal for getting ready coverage. This gives us time to capture details, those last quiet moments, and any meaningful interactions — whether it’s Facetiming with family, a first look with a parent, or simply enjoying coffee together before the adventure begins.
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First Look
A first look is the moment you and your partner see each other for the first time on your wedding day — the instant everything becomes real.
It’s often an emotional mix of awe, relief, laughter, and joy as the anticipation of the day gives way to connection. It’s the moment you realize you’re exactly where you’re meant to be — standing with the person who feels like home, ready to begin one of your favorite adventures yet.
Wait... What’s a First Look?
Why Have a First Look?
In traditional weddings, couples don’t see each other until walking down the aisle.
But for elopements and intimate celebrations, a first look allows you to see one another earlier and share that incredible spark privately.
It gives you the freedom to spend more time together throughout your day — whether that’s exploring, relaxing, or heading to your ceremony spot side by side.
A first look doesn’t make your ceremony any less emotional — in fact, many couples feel more grounded and present afterward.
It helps calm nerves, deepen your connection, and open up space in your timeline for more adventure and ease.
Where to Have Your First Look
Some couples choose to have their first look right at their lodging — on a deck with a view, in a quiet corner of the property, or in a beautifully styled room.
This creates a relaxed flow, lets you spend the full day together, and eases you right into the journey ahead.
Others prefer a first look at their ceremony or portrait location — perhaps at the start of a trail, at a scenic overlook, or in a tucked-away forest clearing. It may involve blindfolded car rides and creativity, but it is ALL possible!
If you’re doing a hiking elopement, you might hike up together in casual attire, then change into your wedding looks before your reveal at the summit.
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Take your time with it. Soak it in. You've waited for this moment.
As your photographer, I’ll guide you through choosing a good location and timing, helping you position for a moment that feels natural. I’ll also help you with ideas on how to organize the look (both blind folded, simul-turns, should taps, mirror reveals, etc), and helping make sure you don’t see each other too soon as I quietly document every genuine reaction.
The first look isn’t about posing and there's no "right" reaction. It’s about presence, emotion, and beginning your ceremony day in a way that is just right for who you two are together. This time. This story. It is all for you.
Your ceremony can be as simple or elaborate as you wish. The experience is best when you design around the connection and meaningful traditions you’ve built together and the experience you want to share.
Planning Your Ceremony
"Totally, uniquely you" trumps "tradition". Every time.
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The Legal Side of Your Ceremony
The legal requirements for marriage vary depending on where you live and where you plan to elope.
I'll help you to research your location in advance and understand its regulations.
But, only you two can decide whether you want to handle the legal paperwork on your elopement day, before, or after.
Remember — the day you sign your marriage license is paperwork.
The day you exchange your vows is the day you’re truly married.
Keeping that in mind often makes the decision feel much clearer.
Options for Getting Legally *Married on* Your Elopement Day
I’m ordained through both the Universal Life Church (non-denominational online ordination) and the First National Marriage Ministry (council-reviewed, non-denominational ordination which is required in Tennessee, among others).
While I won't be able to lead your ceremony, if either ordination is recognized where you’re eloping, I’m happy to sign your paperwork pre or post ceremony at no additional charge.
Especially in Alaska, some adventure guides, bush pilots, and heli or plane operators are also ordained or can serve as ceremonial officiants — offering structure to a unity or vow exchange, even if the legal signing happens elsewhere.
Most U.S. states require an officiant and at least one or two witnesses. Witnesses can often be friends, family, or even fellow travelers you meet along the way.
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This can be an incredibly personal option for couples seeking full privacy and autonomy.
Added bonus? In some states, your dog (or other fur family!) can "sign" your marriage license. A perfect option when you want to involve your favorite pet friend!
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That way, you can stay relaxed and fully present for your ceremony itself.
Be sure to confirm whether you’ll need an appointment and what documentation is required.
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Options for Your Ceremony Without the Paperwork
For simplicity, many couples complete their legal marriage license before or after travel. And, as noted, this pairs well with a Commitment Ceremony.
It’s a seamless option for avoiding logistical stress or location limitations.
Some couples make an occasion out of it — inviting close family to witness the signing, celebrating with a small toast or a favorite dinner out, or, making it part of the pre-departure excitement.
Many couples choose to not worry about the legal part of getting married on the day they say their vows. This is called a “commitment ceremony,” “symbolic ceremony,” or “promise ceremony.” It’s essentially getting married without a marriage license.
Having a commitment ceremony
means your wedding day plans are completely unhindered by rules or legalities, and allows you to say your vows anywhere in the world — without constraints.
You can always complete the legal process before or after your trip (if you choose to/are legally able), but the emotional truth of your wedding day remains the same.
If you’re planning to marry abroad, know that it’s possible in some countries for non-residents to legally wed, though the process can involve complex paperwork and extra steps.
Given that, if formally marrying abroad is a "must do" for you, let me know right away in the Vision portion of our process. This way, I only present Idea Seeds for countries where it is feasible (and/or less cumbersome) to do so.
On the fence on what to do?
My professional advice is to follow the same approach outlined above: focus on your ceremony as your real moment of union and handle the legalities separately, either before or after your trip.
This keeps your experience stress-free and centered on what truly matters — the vows you exchange, heart to heart.
Have questions? Need Guidance? I'm here for you.
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**There’s no script you have to follow.**
You can include as many or as few elements as you want — or create new ones that feel true to you.
For more inspiration, you can explore Soul & Sky’s full ceremony idea guide here: Elopement Ceremony Ideas.
What to Do During Your Ceremony
Your ceremony is the emotional center of your elopement, where it all comes together.
Ceremony IDEAS
...To inspire your Planning
- Read Personalized Vows. Reflect on your relationship, share promises for your future together, express emotions, and commit your life to your partner. This is your chance to speak from the heart.
- Exchange Rings or Another Token. Rings are a traditional symbol of infinity, but you can exchange anything meaningful — bracelets, stones, or something symbolic of your shared journey.
- First Kiss & First Dance. Mark your firsts together — your first kiss as a married couple or a private dance under the open sky. These moments feel especially intimate in remote, natural settings.
- Read Letters from Loved Ones. Invite friends or family who can’t attend to write letters for you to read during your ceremony — a simple way to include them in spirit.
- Surprises & Gifts. If you’ve prepared a small surprise or gift for your partner, the ceremony is a beautiful time to exchange it.
- Create Space for Those Not Present. Honor loved ones who can’t be with you through a moment of silence, a reading, or a keepsake included in your ceremony setup.
- Incorporate Music. Play a favorite song, have a musician perform, or create a playlist that fits your setting. Some couples even surprise one another with a personal song or instrument performance.
- Sage or Scent Ceremony. If allowed and safe, a sage smudge or essential oil ritual can mark the beginning of your shared life together. Always check fire restrictions and choose eco-conscious alternatives (eg herbal essential oils) when needed.
- Handfasting. A Celtic-inspired tradition where your hands are bound together with ribbon or rope — symbolizing unity. You can even invite family or friends to participate by tying the cords, with each color cord carrying its own meaning in your story.
- Unity Ceremony. Combine two parts into one — pour sand, light a candle, plant a tree, or blend spices or tea. Choose a gesture that represents your life coming together.
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What to expect — Portraits
But I promise, those worries fade faster than you think. You’ll be experiencing so much joy and emotion throughout your elopement that your natural energy takes over.
My approach is simple and relaxed — I guide gently where needed, but most of the magic happens when you forget I’m even there and just get lost in each other and the beautiful scenery around you.
COUPLES PORTRAITS:
Know that I'll be there, watching for wild hairs, straightening jackets, and encouraging you to play and explore because we share the same goal: creating imagery that feels incredible and true to you.
So, as you experience all across your elopement, some tips:
- If you’re ever unsure what to do with your hands at any point, reach for your partner.
- Less posing, more play. Walk, jump, twirl, run, dance, bearhug, pretzel sit, etc. Movement looks amazing!
- Don’t be afraid to interact with one another how you normally would and explore the landscape you are in. Touch and gaze are moments that radiate emotion.
- Keep each other smiling as you reminisce the amazing stories, adventures, and misadventures that brought you to where you are.
- Remind your partner often how great they look and how much you love them.
Have fun and enjoy yourself! Happy looks good on you :-)
Quick Tips for Looking and Feeling Great in Your Photos
Typically we'll take family portraits shortly after the family ceremony while everyone is together and glowing.
I’ll send you a special VIP/Family Groupings list in our planning to make this process seamless and enjoyable.
With it, you’ll know exactly what groupings you want to have "family photos" of . This helps us all to to stay organized so we can move efficiently and keep things relaxed.
Each grouping typically takes about three minutes, and we’ll mix in a few candid moments alongside the traditional smiles — think hugs, laughter, and small in-between moments that tell your story.
I’ll guide things smoothly so you can stay focused on what matters most: celebrating with your people.
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These aren’t just filler moments — they’re opportunities to connect, reflect, and celebrate in ways that feel totally you.
Personalizing Your Time
Activities and ideas to make your elopement shine your unique glow
PS - Here are the additional Excursion & Activity Ideas↗️ and Ceremony Ideas↗️ shared prior for easy reference.
Here are a few more ideas to inspire you — but remember, while what you love might not be on this list, it’s still absolutely valid.
Bring all your ideas and "what ifs" — it’s my joy to help you shape whatever makes you you.
Activity Ideas to Personalize Your Elopement Experience
Music-infused memories
Play instruments together to create a personal soundtrack for your day. Have a slow dance or dance party to your favorite playlist. Sit & sip a favorite drink or snuggle into soothing melodies.
These activities don’t need to be heavily scheduled
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— Think of them as pauses in your story. Leave space to relax and savor the moment without rushing.
For some couples, the most beautiful memories come from spontaneous ideas or simple moments between adventures.
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Celebratory Meals or Gatherings
And while not every meal or snack is a production, each one is an opportunity to imprint your experience. Sharing a meal is one of the most grounding and memorable parts of any day — a moment to pause, reflect, and celebrate.
Whether it’s a private chef dinner, a charcuterie picnic, cooking together over a fire, or visiting a local restaurant or food truck, your meal can become its own meaningful chapter. You might read letters from loved ones, share toasts of favorite treats, or simply enjoy each other’s company and the views while I quietly pop in to capture the atmosphere before you dive into the full eating experience.
As your adventure flow starts to take shape, we’ll make sure that nourishment is never an afterthought — each shared meal, snack, or toast is a simple, meaningful way to celebrate in another way, together.
Eating - A necessity. A luxury. And, an experience.
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Your Wedding. Unhurried.
Every Soul & Sky experience is designed around you — your pace, your priorities, and the story you want to tell.
This flow shown below offers a glimpse into how a multi-day experience often unfolds.
But remember — it’s only a starting point. No two stories ever look the same.
For those who want to ease into the experience, a pre-elopement lifestyle session — capturing early explorations or easy-going prep — can be a beautiful way to begin coverage and settle comfortably into the feel of being photographed.
Arrive, settle in, and savor the anticipation. Enjoy a local experience, hike or walkabout, and then flow into a welcome dinner or relaxed evening experience prepping for your ceremony day— just you two, or shared with your treasured few.
DAY 1: Arrival & Welcome
The heart of your story. This is the day everything comes together — the adventure, the emotion, the vows. Whether we reach your ceremony spot by jeep, small plane, or sailboat, it’s all part of the magic. Celebrate afterward with a private dinner or intimate reception under the stars.
(Base coverage often begins here for 1.5-day experiences.)
DAY 2: Adventure + Ceremony
The luxury of time to make your wedding amazing, designed for reflection, deeper adventure, or simply enjoying being together in nature.
If Day 2 includes your treasured few, this is the perfect day for private vows.
(Base coverage often ends here in late morning for 1.5-day experiences.)
DAY 3: Private Vows + Second Adventure
These final days are an open invitation — to explore deeper, rest longer, and connect more fully with the place you’ve chosen.
Maybe a sunrise flight over wild peaks, a private wine tasting, a clifftop sunset dinner by jeep, or an easy day by the coast.
I’ll handle logistics and provide photo coverage, allowing it to flow naturally from your ceremony days, so you can focus on living your story, not managing details and missing moments.
Days 4–5: Rest, Explore, Immerse
In Short?
Think of it as your favorite trip ever… only this time, it begins with vows.
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Adventure Luxe
As your elopement adventure approaches, gathering the right essentials helps you travel with ease and confidence. Every Soul & Sky experience is unique, so while you’ll receive a tailored list specific to your itinerary, these are the foundations for feeling prepared, comfortable, and ready for anything the journey brings.
Travel Basics
Water bottles, snacks
Begin setting aside items early — a little at a time — so when it’s time to go, you’re calm and ready. Think of this not just as logistics, but as part of your transition into the experience ahead.
Essentials:
Pack with Intention:
Travel IDs, passports (w/6 mo+ of validity), international entry visas
Bluetooth speaker for music
Permits and marriage license
Tissues or handkerchiefs, and any personal comforts
Cash (Local Currency) for tipping guides, staff, etc
Adventure Gear:
Sunscreen, sunglasses, bug spray + lip balm with SPF
Adventure-ready footwear
Daypacks or hiking backpacks
Headlamps, umbrellas, or trekking poles depending on your location
Layers: hat, rain jacket, warm base layers, gloves + extra non-cotton socks
Ceremony & Attire
Wedding attire for each partner (plus undergarments, shoes, accessories)
Florals or decor pieces
Rings, vow books, and any sentimental heirlooms
Perfume, hair, and makeup essentials
Garment bags and wrinkle spray
For backcountry travel or small aircraft (like helicopters or bush planes), soft-sided luggage in carry-on size is typically required.
For aesthetics, a lovely worn leather or waxed canvas luggage looks timelessly beautiful and classy.
Or, to lean more into the "sport/travel" vibe, a hybrid travel bag that can be converted into a backpack, or, straps stowed for checked baggage offers flexibility and ease when navigating beaches, cobblestone streets, or off-the-grid paths. My personal favorite are bags like the Osprey Porter Travel Pack series — there are various "sizes" to fit your travel needs.
Final Thought: Adventure Luxe means balance — practical meets beautiful. Pack light where you can, prioritize comfort, and leave space in your bag (and your itinerary!) for discovery.
Luggage
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I’ll help you craft the essential communications — from travel details and attire guidance to safety notes and location logistics — so you can feel comfortable they'll be ready with thorough information ahead of the experience.
Communicating with guests
The key? Early, often, and, with clarity. Ease with travel varies greatly by person.
Through my concierge support, you’ll have help with pre-travel emails, schedule announcements, and gear or garment suggestions based on your specific itinerary.
For unfamiliar types of travel (especially to off-the-beaten-path destinations), white-glove travel support is also available as a customized add-on service to assist guests with flights, ground transportation, and lodging.
Whether provided to all or tailored to a select few, this helps ensure everyone arrives smoothly and can enjoy the prep and time on the ground with much less stress.
Guest Prep
Communications
- What to bring (and what to leave behind) based on your location and activities
- Attire guidance for comfort in the climate, season, and terrain
- Directions, GPS pins, and parking info for the ceremony or celebration spots
- Cost information & responsibility notice for guests such as: travel & lodging, meals, excluded or optional guest excursions, activities, tipping, etc.
- Event timeline details and info on the flow of the overall adventure.
- Leave No Trace and unplugged ceremony reminders (more on that below).
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Unplugged Ceremonies
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I wholeheartedly endorse unplugged ceremonies. When guests put down their phones and cameras, they can be fully present — soaking in the emotion, beauty, and connection of your vows.
It also ensures your photos capture the pure, uninterrupted energy of the moment without distractions.
Let your guests know early that your ceremony will be unplugged.
It is absolutely fair to ask for: you are prioritizing their attendance as a "treasured few," so, you want them to be truly present. I can help you find kind, thoughtful ways to communicate this in advance and remind everyone on the day.
They’ll know they can relax, be in the moment, and soon relive it all through the professional gallery you can share.
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Whether you’re flying across the world or driving into the mountains, these last-minute reminders will help you feel calm, prepared, and fully present for your elopement adventure.
- START PACKING EARLY — ideally over a few days — so you can add items as they come to mind. This helps you stay organized and ensures nothing important gets left behind.
- IF YOU'RE FLYING — always carry on your most essential pieces: your attire, rings, vow books, and ceremony details. While what matters most is that you’re marrying your favorite person, I still want you to have the experience you’ve dreamed of — so let’s not leave those details to chance.
- ARRIVE EARLY + SELF CARE — If your destination has a drier climate or higher elevation, give yourself time to acclimate. Hydrate often, rest well, and eat nourishing meals in the days leading up to your elopement. You’ll want the energy to enjoy every moment — from the first light of day to the last dance under the stars.
- AND ABOVE ALL, RELAX — You’ve designed a celebration that reflects the two of you beautifully. It's hard to know what to expect, so honestly, come in without expectations. This puts you in the frame of mind to organically experience anything that comes your way with joy. Having a set idea of how it will all happen might close you off to seeing the magic in unexpected things that unfold. This trust to plan ahead, but, to roll with the punches this is the beauty of this kind of "slow" travel.
You've been Dreaming of this Adventure...
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Live Your Story
Start with imagination, not logistics.
Visions into experiences that become memories.
For your wedding experience as a whole, embrace the easy-going flow of it all. From the first travel moment to the final toast, remember this is a journey designed around who you are and the vow of adventure you're taking together. Every pause, laugh, and bit of spontaneity is part of the story we’re creating.
That’s what this is all about, after all: honoring your connection, giving you moments to celebrate in a way that's just for you.
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